Much Better

January 24, 2012

Often times as women we find ourselves settling for mediocre things in life. We are content with what is giving to us that we don't demand what we deserve. We settle for the half on the fence relationship with God, the knock off bag, the dead end job, average grades, and the man that deals with us but truly doesn't love us. However, that is not the plans God has for your life. "For I know the plans I have for you," says the Lord. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope." Jeremiah 29:11

I found myself always settling for average in life. As a woman of God, a part of me knew that God had something in store that was bigger and better. It was a matter of walking away from my past and releasing the things that hindered me. Once I learned to let go and let God have his way in my life things began to get much better. I dealt with heartache, persecution, being stabbed in the back by so-called friends, but I realized there was a reason for it all: God was preparing me for Better! Romans 8:28 states, "And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them." With that being said, I know that my God is not finished with me yet. God delivered me from something's to allow Greater things!

Remember, every trial and tribulation is not meant to harm you, but God allows it to strengthen your relationship with Him and to help you grow as a child of God. James 1:2-4

My best is yet to come!!!

Unsubscribe

Who or what do you need to unsubscribe from?

What is the meaning of unsubscribe? Free Dictionary states, "to cancel a subscritption, especially to an online publication, service, or mailing list. If you think about it, there are many things you could unsubscribe from: broken relationships, so-called friends, extra-curricular activities, and the list goes on. How are these subscriptions affecting your life? And through these subscriptions how are you affecting others? If the subscriptions (i.e. relationships, activities, etc) are not adding to your life then maybe it is time to remove it from your life!

First, you must be honest with yourself and examine how you affect others. As children of God we all in some way are teachers, and have a responsibility to try our best to live the life God has called us to. Women, we have all been influenced by other women whether good or bad. We just need to keep in mind that there are younger ladies who are watching our every move, so then how will your teachings affect the younger generation? James 3:1

Nonetheless, we have to understand that we are not supposed to subscribe to everything because every subscription isn't a good subscription. Be mindful of who and/or what you allow in your life because unsubscribing may be harder than what you think.

Trusting In God

As women we find ourselves always trying to please others, whether it is on the job, our children, husbands/fiancé, friends, family, etc. In the midst of all this we lose sight of what's important and sometimes waver between right and wrong. Doubt leaves a person as unsettled as the restless waves. Stop allowing others to determine your outcome because I have learned that no matter how hard you try to please others, you will fail, and their opinion really doesn't matter!

During my journey in life, I have struggled with "always trying to please others even if it made me miserable." At times we can find ourselves so into other people that we miss out on a blessing from God and most importantly: pleasing Him! Furthermore, from my experience it is better to say no sometimes in order to make room for what God truly has in store for you.

Society puts women into this box and has a certain image in mind, but guess what? God made us all different and has given us free will to make our own decisions. Quit giving others the power to toss you about, rely on God to show you what is best for you. You must ask God for wisdom and guidance, then trust that he will give it to you. Just know that only then will your decisions be sure and solid. James 1:6-8

God is the only one I am striving to please!

God is not finished!

One of my favorite people in the world asked me, "why don't you still blog?" It clicked and I knew then that there was something I was supposed to be doing, and that was blogging.

So many times we get caught up in our own desires and what "I" need that we forget about others. My pastor(Craig) said it best- "if you have both hands full how can you help others?" It is better to have less of what doesn't matter and more of what does. Ecclesiastes 4:6

Over the years I have learned, that every trial and tribulation was ordained by God (my testimony). It was not necessarily for me, but to help others. The voice God has given me was not used to keep to my self, but to vocalize to other women who are going through and need a little guidance. I used to ask God "why me, why give me this voice? I am not worthy? And God simply said, "why not you?" God used killers, thieves, etc., so why not use me? He has allowed me to stand in just about every shoe: single mother, divorced, married, sister, daughter, friend, best friend, etc. As women we can help each other in so many ways rather than tearing each other down.

My mission this year is to be consistent in everything and more helpful, and releasing the things that don't matter nor add positivity to my life, so I can make room for better!

March 16, 2011

Giving Thanks

It's been awhile since I have last blogged, but I needed to share, so here goes........

Through everything, I have learned to give thanks: even when I am at my lowest because I have found out that it could be worse.... I will bless the Lord at all times because everything I go through is not for me, but a testimony to help others! In the past month I have had the opportunity to talk and share with others and it has truly blessed my soul; to finally begin to understand why the Lord placed me on this earth and the journey I have taken to get where I am today. The obstacles that we as women, mothers, sisters, daughters, etc. go through it is only to make us stronger! Honestly, I believe that God gave WOMEN the duties of motherhood and being a wife because He knew we could endure more than men, and that we are stronger creatures. Being able to juggle and go through what we do is not an easy task, and there are many hardships, but I am confident that with God on your side you are able to overcome each and everyone!

God didn't promise that our life would be peaches and cream all our days, and as I have said before God gives us Free Will to make our own choices, make the right choices because each choice determines the outcome. No matter who or what tries to get in the way ALWAYS conduct yourself at all times as ladies, mothers, and most importantly Women of God because others are watching.

My Third Journey:

On Friday I will be 28 weeks and I will be celebrating my first year anniversary to my wonderful husband! It is a blessing and the greatest feeling ever, and I don't take it lightly.

To fill my bundle in the making kicking and moving is truly a blessing and I am so ready to see her face in 12 weeks! Everyday that inches by our family is getting more and more excited! At this point in life I appreciate and love being a mother even more! Don't take this time for granted, but embrace and cherish every moment.....

January 11, 2011

Grateful

It has taken me years to accept who I am, and to be grateful for the trials and tribulations God has allowed in my life. Just like Job I count it joy to be tested because that means that God still has a purpose for me. It hasn't been easy for me to accept my past and the things that I have had to endure, but one thing I do know is that I don't regret my past. The past has made me the woman I am and has given me the opportunity to experience ups and downs, so that I can share those with others. Now, that I am wiser I am pressing towards the future, and not looking in the past. Even though life has dealt some bad hands I am still able to say "thank you Lord for it all!"

This year try to remain grateful for every situation you encounter. It may be the hardest time in your life, but know that God will never take you to a place without having plans to carry you through to the end! The great thing about finding the best out of a situation - is always knowing that the results will end up being better than they are at the moment.

Strive to be better than you were Yesterday!

My Third Journey:

Too excited because we have three more days until we find out the sex of the baby! Regardless, of the outcome we are praying for the health and strength of our baby. This has been the most challenging pregnancy I have gone through, but I am so grateful to have this opportunity to carry another being!

January 5, 2010

He Saw The Best

There is something about Marvin Sapp's song that I can relate too.

It is so profound how these two sentences can impact so many lives!

"He saw the best in me, whenever one else around could only see the worst in me.

He's mine, and I am His; it doesn't matter what I did. He only sees me for who I am." 

The lyrics speak to me as a mother, woman, and as an individual living in everyday society. Folks counted you out, people dogged you, they persecuted you, they stabbed you in the back, they didn't believe you would amount to anything, and they even slandered your name in the streets. I can even go as far to say the following: whether you have been on drugs, had kids out of wedlock, danced on a strip pole, or sold your body God is so forgiving and STILL sees the BEST IN YOU! Some folks that once had your back may have wrote you off, but my God will always be there and see your potential! Yet, no matter what you have been through and how broken you may feel, God will always see the best in you!  

So many times we try to hold on to our past, which prevents us from moving forward, and in order to move forward and be blessed with what is truly ours, then we have to LET GO, and LET GOD! Yes, it may hurt to let it go, but God can only work when you let go of the mess. (If it doesn't benefit your life in a positive way then release it!) The Lord sees something in our future greater, and it is vital to release the past relationships, hurts, and pains, so the Best can be given! 

 

My Third Journey:

Lord, thank you for seeing the Best in me, for allowing me this opportunity to be a mother and carry this gift! 

I ask myself who am I to deserve such a gift? But my God sees something in me that others nor I can't see. The Best is Yet To Come